The Real You Is Already Free: Remembering Your Essence
“Freedom isn’t something you achieve. It’s something you remember.”
🌅 INTRO: WHAT IF YOU WERE NEVER BROKEN?
Pause with that.
What if the version of you that’s striving, fixing, and perfecting…
is actually blocking the truth that’s always been there?
The real you — not the fearful one, not the wounded one —
but the essence beneath the layers… is already free.
🧠 LAYER ONE: THE PRISON ISN’T REAL — BUT YOU FEEL IT ANYWAY
Most people don’t realize they’re living in a mental cage.
It’s invisible.
Constructed from:
- Conditioning
- Trauma
- Ego
- Shame
- Fear
You don’t see the bars — but you feel them: in your hesitation, in your anxiety, in the way you shrink when life asks for more.
✖️The thoughts sound like:
- “I need to prove myself.”
- “I’m not ready yet.”
- “Once I fix this, then I’ll feel whole.”
But these are not truths — they’re echoes.
“We suffer because we believe the voice in our head is who we are.” — Michael A. Singer
Source: The Untethered Soul
Real Story: “I Thought I Had to Heal Everything First”
Consider Brianna Wiest, an accomplished author known for her works on self-improvement and emotional intelligence. Brianna has articulated the profound insight that healing is not about fixing oneself to achieve worthiness but about recognizing inherent wholeness. She emphasizes:TikTok
“You do not have to be fearless to be free, but you do have to be courageous.” TikTok
This perspective shift—from viewing healing as a finish line to understanding it as a continuous journey—has empowered many to live authentically. By embracing their true selves, individuals often find that external circumstances begin to align more harmoniously with their inner state.
Key Insights:
- Continuous Journey: Healing is an ongoing process, not a destination to be reached.
- Inherent Wholeness: Recognizing one’s intrinsic worth can alleviate the pressure to “fix” oneself.
- Authentic Living: Embracing authenticity can lead to positive shifts in various aspects of life.
Brianna’s insights underscore the importance of self-acceptance and the realization that worthiness is not something to be earned but acknowledged within oneself..
🔍 LAYER TWO: YOU ARE NOT YOUR THOUGHTS
You’ve been conditioned to believe that your thoughts = your identity. But the truth?
You are the awareness behind the thoughts.
In mindfulness psychology, this is called metacognition — the ability to observe thought without fusing with it.
Read: Mindfulness & Meta-Awareness – American Psychological Association
Every time you say,
“I’m not good enough,”
You are reinforcing a program — not a truth.
🔓 LAYER THREE: WHO YOU REALLY ARE
Now we go deeper.
Beneath your ego, your stories, your roles — is essence.
Your essence is:
- Quiet
- Present
- Whole
- Unshakable
- Free
“The true self is never damaged. It is only obscured.” — Dr. Gabor Maté
Source: The Myth of Normal
When you touch this part of you, even for a moment, everything softens. You stop grasping. You remember:
You are not becoming —
You are uncovering.
🧘 LAYER FOUR: THE PATH BACK TO YOU (DAILY REMEMBERING)
Freedom doesn’t come from doing more. It comes from remembrance.
Here’s how to build that into your life.
1. Stillness Before Story
Spend the first 3 minutes of your morning in total stillness.
Sit. Breathe. Listen.
No phone. No affirmation. Just presence.
“Let me meet myself before the world meets me.”
2. Interrupt the Illusion
When you hear yourself thinking, “I’m not enough” or “I should be farther” — pause.
Ask:
“Who’s speaking — my soul or my survival pattern?”
This question alone can rewire your emotional response.
Read: The Way of Integrity – Martha Beck
3. Feel More Than You Fix
Next time you want to journal or problem-solve your way out of discomfort, do this instead:
- Place your hand on your body
- Say: “This is welcome.”
- Breathe through the sensation
Freedom lives on the other side of feeling, not fixing.
4. Speak From the Soul
Don’t just “speak your truth” — speak your being.
Try this prompt daily:
“Right now, the real me would say…”
Let whatever comes up be enough.
🌈 LAYER FIVE: WHEN YOU REMEMBER — YOUR WORLD CHANGES
Once you stop chasing identity and start living from essence, everything realigns:
- Relationships become mirrors of truth, not performance
- Work becomes expression, not survival
- Peace becomes your default, not your goal
And perhaps most of all…
You stop seeking permission to exist.
Because you finally remember:
You already are.
Real Story: “The Moment I Remembered, Everything Shifted”
Malik, 42, was always “the reliable one.” He lived for others, hid his truth, and never slowed down.
Until one night — in the dark, alone — he heard the words in his mind:
“You’ve never let the real you breathe.”
He wept.
The next day, he took a walk, wrote one page of poetry, and told someone “no” for the first time in a year.
“That small act of truth unlocked everything. I’ve been different ever since — because I remembered myself.”
🕊️ CONCLUSION: YOU NEVER LOST YOURSELF — YOU WERE JUST HIDDEN
This journey isn’t about fixing who you are.
It’s about letting go of who you’re not.
The real you is not:
- The achiever
- The people-pleaser
- The one trying to earn love
The real you is already enough.
Already whole.
Already free.
So take a breath.
Drop the story.
Return to essence.
Because who you really are… is already home.
📚 SOURCES & FURTHER READING
