Healing Your Relationship with Money: A Soul-Level Approach
“Your relationship with money reflects your relationship with self-trust, self-worth, and self-love.”
🌿 INTRO: MONEY IS A MIRROR, NOT A MASTER
If you’ve ever felt guilt spending money…
Or anxiety checking your bank account…
Or shame charging what you’re worth…
You’re not alone.
You’re not broken.
You’re carrying an unhealed story.
Because money isn’t just math. It’s memory.
It holds:
- Childhood beliefs
- Ancestral patterns
- Unspoken trauma
Healing your finances isn’t just about budgeting — it’s about soul retrieval.
Let’s explore how to restore your relationship with money from the inside out.
🧠 PART I: THE ROOTS OF MONEY WOUNDS
According to financial therapist Bari Tessler, money touches everything — yet we rarely talk about it with honesty.
Source: The Art of Money – Bari Tessler
Common Roots of Financial Resistance:
- Emotional neglect: Never being taught how to manage or trust money
- Spiritual guilt: Believing that wanting more is greedy or unholy
- Family trauma: Witnessing financial fights, loss, or survival patterns
- Perfectionism: Believing “I’ll be safe when I finally figure it out”
These wounds don’t just live in your logic — they live in your body.
📖 PART II: REAL STORY — MATT KHORI & FINANCIAL HEALING FROM ABUSE
Matt Khori, a trauma-informed coach, grew up in a religious household where asking for money was labeled as “worldly.”
As an adult, he undercharged, overworked, and secretly resented his clients.
His turning point came during somatic therapy, where he realized he’d inherited shame from generations of scarcity and silence.
“I had to forgive my parents for surviving. And myself for pretending I didn’t want more.”
Matt now teaches financial embodiment — helping others use nervous system healing to restore abundance.
Source: Matt Khori – Financial Healing Coach
🔍 PART III: SIGNS YOUR MONEY WOUND IS STILL UNHEALED
- You feel panic or shutdown around money talk
- You avoid checking accounts or setting prices
- You resent people who are at ease with money
- You overgive to avoid feeling guilty receiving
- You believe “money will corrupt me”
These aren’t flaws. They’re feedback.
🧬 PART IV: THE INNER CHILD + MONEY CONNECTION
Your inner child remembers everything — even the moments you forgot.
- The “No, we can’t afford that.”
- The silence when bills came due.
- The tension that filled the room when money was mentioned.
When money becomes a threat, your body stores it as fear.
According to Dr. Gabor Maté:
“What we perceive as addiction or dysfunction is often a coping response to unbearable stress.”
Source: The Myth of Normal – Dr. Gabor Maté
🛠️ PART V: PRACTICES TO HEAL YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH MONEY
1. Inner Child Money Dialogue
Journal from your 7-year-old self:
- What did money feel like to them?
- What did they wish someone had said?
Then, respond as your empowered adult self.
2. Forgiveness Letter
Write a letter to:
- Your past self
- A parent or caregiver
- Money itself
Forgiveness clears the static. Love opens the channel.
3. Sacred Spending Ritual
Before spending:
- Hold the money or card to your heart
- Say: “This is love circulating. I bless it as it goes and comes back multiplied.”
Turn transactions into intention.
4. Somatic Repatterning
Work with:
- EFT tapping
- TRE (Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises)
- Vagus nerve breathwork
This helps the body feel safe with money again.
Source: The Body Keeps the Score – Bessel van der Kolk
💬 FINAL WORD: YOU DESERVE A LOVING RELATIONSHIP WITH MONEY
Not one based in fear.
Not one based in guilt.
But one rooted in:
- Clarity
- Compassion
- Confidence
Because money is not just currency. It’s current — and your soul is ready to flow with it.
You are allowed to:
- Want more
- Earn with ease
- Spend without shame
- Heal what they never got to
And you don’t need to “fix” yourself to get there.
You just need to feel your way home.
Your wholeness is the wealth.
The rest is reflection.
📚 RESOURCES & FURTHER READING
